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by Jack Rockwell

When it comes to approaching and attracting women, most men are clueless.  They don’t know what to say, or how to say it.  They don’t understand how women think about themselves, or other men.

Before you can even begin to have the right set of tools to drive the ladies crazy, you need to have the right tools within yourself.  I know you might be thinking this is sappy or corny, but it is more important than you know. In order for you to attract more women, and be successful with them, you need to have a healthy and confident self. Without knowing, growing, and learning about yourself, you will never be successful with women.

Most people are constantly having an internal dialogue with themselves. All day long we are having different conversations in our head. We think about what we want to eat, when should I workout, I hate work, she looks hot, or I can’t wait until the weekend.  All day long day after day we are talking to ourselves.  Our brain is a pretty hard working engine. It’s amazing it doesn’t burn out faster.

The other reality is that most people are average.  Most people just go through the motions of daily life, just waiting for the day to be over. They hate their jobs, they hate their situation, and they dislike themselves. You might not want to hear this, but it is the truth. Most people are fairly unsatisfied and think negatively in their minds.  Not everyone, but most.

The ones that don’t, the ones that strive to be different, better, revolutionary, or take control of their lives, are the ones that become great. People like this become leaders, role models, revolutionaries, or even savants with women. They think positively about life and themselves.  They visualize greatness and then chase after it, never slowing down until they reach what they want. These are people like Martin Luther King Jr., Michael Jordan, Henry Ford, Albert Einstein, or John Lennon to name a few.

We are and become what our daily thoughts are. Some of you might already know all about this stuff if you have read THE SECRET by Rhonda Byrne or LAW OF ATTRACTION by Michael J. Losier. If you haven’t, you should pick up a copy today and start reading!

Have you ever heard the statement that if you tell a lie enough times you will begin to believe it? It’s true though, right? If you lie and lie the same lie over and over again, you begin to believe your own BS. You have said it so many times to so many people that it has become your reality.

Have you ever just known and felt something deep down that you know will come true? Have you ever gone into a situation and just known you were going to come out successful? There is no explaining it. You just know. You knew days in advance that you would come out successful. This is the same type of thing. Your feelings and thoughts play off each other and create realities.

This phenomenon is true with anything and everything. If you tell yourself over and over again that you are a loser and will never amount to anything, then guess what? You will be a loser that never amounts to anything. If you tell yourself that you are worthy and awesome and women would be crazy not to be with you, and you act the part, and think about yourself in a constant positive light, then you will have women drawn to you. It cannot work any other way.

When I became interested in learning more about women and relationships, I was a fairly negative thinker.  Not all day, but it was a consistent theme.  I did not think I was capable of having success with women.  So guess what?  I was not successful with women. My thoughts were I was no good, and my actions would follow my thought process, and the outcome was inevitable.
If this is all new to you, it might sound weird, or sound like a bunch of new age philosophy but I am telling you it works.  Again, I would highly advise you to read one of the books mentioned a few paragraphs back.

I started doing some research on laws of attraction and the power of positive thinking once I finally realized that what I was doing was not working. At first, I was hesitant to read these types of books, and felt a little girly doing it. You might feel this way too. As I began to read and learn more and more about this way of thinking, I became fascinated by what it preached. It made so much sense to me!

So I started to try and shift my way of thinking.  I started telling myself that I was going to start meeting women.  Women were going to love being with me because of all my positive characteristics.  I would remind myself daily what these positive characteristics were.  I would recite them in my head. I would say them to myself when I went to bed and when I woke up in the morning.  I would put notes on my mirror and in my car to remind me of who I was and what I wanted to become and achieve in my life.

Before long, I started feeling more confident. I started meeting more women, and they were responding to me like never before. This all had to do with my new way of thinking. Our thoughts and mind are so very powerful. They can do things that seem impossible. You can create any reality that you desire, because your reality is what you think and how you take those thoughts and put them into action.

Another important part of all this is visualization.  Visualization has become such an important part of my daily routine and long term life plan.  The best part of visualization, to me, is that it’s fun to do.  Who doesn’t like daydreaming about positive things?  I day dream about the money I want, the vacations I am on, the women I want to be with.  It is so much fun!  I visualize myself already in that moment.  I use all my senses in the visualization.  I can see, smell, feel, taste, and hear my visualization.  This is a very powerful technique and concept.

If you practice the art of positive thinking and visualization on a daily basis, you will begin to see results. If you begin thinking about the type of woman you want and start dreaming about what you will do together, and how great the two of you are together, and you actually start believing you are already with her, you will end up with this woman at some point. You will end up with her sooner than later too. I know it sounds crazy, but I have done this, and I know other men who have done this as well.

About the author:

Jack Rockwell is the founder of DatingSavant.com and the author of the Dating Savant Playbook, which teaches men how to attract and date more women.